The Myth of Selfishness –
For as long as I can remember I have had a Sense of Purpose, but it’s been one of those senses which has created more questions than it answered. The most pressing has always been, “What exactly is this purpose?”! I had a space within me which yearned to be filled.
I discovered meditation as an 11 year old child and found an extraordinary sense of peace, one that I had never felt before and one which I yearned to have as my default every day. However, when I tried to discuss it with my friends, they looked at me slightly more askance than usual and gently steered the conversation away to something they could understand; probably ponies.
I decided to fly solo as a seeker.
After several nudges as an adult I tentatively joined a healing circle and found that this innate ability of healing went a little way to filling that space which this Sense of Purpose had created within me. I also re-discovered that sense of peace.
A few years later I trained to work with animals using Tellington TTouch. I definitely had a TTouch space within my Sense of Purpose, but then egos welled up which I struggled with so I stepped back to protect myself.
Still, this Sense of Purpose persisted.
I left my husband. The Space grew but felt open and ready rather than vulnerable. Then it grew hungry. “What are you going to do about me?”, it would ask at inopportune moments – having a drink with friends or kissing my lover. “There is something special for you to do – it’s trying to get your attention but you ain’t listening!”
There are times when the Bleeding Obvious has to be pointed out to you. My love of writing was one such thing, as was my journey to a life I truly love and treasure. How many times were these shown to me? I have no idea. I wasn’t listening – I was tuned into something else, the golden cape of textiles, my “other” love.
It would appear, dear friends, that my Sense of Purpose was Bleeding Obvious for a long time and now I would like to share it with you.
I would like to take you on a journey to a Life You Love.
The first element I would like to share with you requires a shift in thinking that you may resist. I need you to be selfish. I would like you to start realising that actually, you ARE worth it (I knew I’d get a little L’Oreal moment in here somehow).
The Universe is designed for selfishness.
The only person who is responsible for your feelings is you. No-one can make you happy, nor can they make you angry or sad. You are the one who chooses how to respond – think about that one for a few minutes. You can choose your own feelings in response to anything. Wow! How selfish is that! How absolutely amazing that you can create your emotions any way you’d like them to be.
When I first learned of this I thought it was utter tosh! How can I possibly choose my emotions when someone is being such an arse? Well, actually, I learned how to do just that, and sometimes I need to be reminded!
On the flip side of this, you are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness, or misery. This only imprisons you and disempowers them. You can only find your own path when other people’s emotions are factored out. Selfish? You bet.
This is the moment that you start to care more about how YOU feel than about what others think.
It is possible to be selfish without trampling over other people, the line is when you start sacrificing yourself for them. Please stay this side of the line. It’s your time now.
From this moment it’s “Me Time”!